What is finding yourself?
•Learning about yourself
•Who are YOU?
•How do you deal with situations?
•What is your purpose?
Relax, these aren’t questions you are supposed to have all the answers to but they are pointers that will help. Sometimes you have to distance yourself from people and friends in order to find yourself. Taking that time out for yourself to find out what you need to work on; what you need to achieve and what you need to change. This might seem like a selfish process but it’s actually selfless in the sense that you do yourself and others a favour by going through a “soul sabbatical” (a period or rest from work i.e. In this case, your soul) season. You realise things that you do that other people may not necessarily appreciate and how you can change that a be a better YOU.
In a season of isolation you may feel all types of emotion; abandonment, excitement etc. This is also part of the process. In this time you can also heal what has been hurting. We need to remember that God heals a broken spirit and honours the contrite heart (Psalm 51:17 “My sacrifice, O God, is a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart you, God, will not despise.”) I’ve been going through this and I began to resent that feeling of isolation and the distance I have from my loved ones but I realised and accepted that a session of isolation is an essential step needed on the journey to finding yourself and being comfortable being on your own. God will take you through a period of isolation because he’s about to elevate you and where he is taking you to, some people may not need to be there. You have to learn to like yourself first.
When it comes to self-reflection, It’s so easy to get “lost in the sauce”. People underestimate the power of self reflection. This is time out needed to almost evaluate yourself and your surroundings. What you’re doing wrong and what you’re doing right. Life gets so busy and we can become so sidetracked and easily influenced that we almost lose ourselves.
Ask yourself these questions:
- are you using your time effectively?
- are you doing something to get closer to your goals?
- are the activities you’re engaging in adding to your personal growth (gossiping, shaming others, procrastinating)
Look at yourself in the mirror; reflect; do you like the person you’re becoming? If the answer is no, CHANGE that!